THE SITUATION
When Paul came to me for help he was at his wits end, tired of begging Cathy for sex. She was avoidant (aka busy) he was needy (aka sex starved). Although they loved each other they both felt lonely.

“Amy, she’s always rejecting me. We’re never on the same page. What am I doing wrong?”

THE SITUATION
When Paul came to me for help he was at his wits end, tired of begging Cathy for sex. She was avoidant (aka busy) he was needy (aka sex starved). Although they loved each other they both felt lonely.

CHALLENGE
They tried counselling but talking was not addressing their lack of intimacy. And prescribed date nights felt empty. They still didn't know what to do once they got home. Cathy loved being intimate with him but was raised to think of sex as dirty. Paul didn't know what to do, so he turned to watching porn which only left him feeling guilty. Paul resisted going outside of his marriage for sex. He didn't want a divorce but the rejection and her lack of desire were taking a toll on his self esteem.

GOAL
They both deeply desired a secure relationship where they could feel like they are enough for each other, happy, loved and trust that they will grow old together.

SOLUTION
They joined The Intimacy Game Plan. They stopped talking and learned how to show up for each other. The learned to initiate wordlessly, express their moods and desires by simply using a candy dish and a scarf. Knowing their starting positions and having a routine makes them intimate partners able to give and receive love by learning to make love together.

OUTCOME
Now Paul and Cathy are on the same page at the same time every time.

Paul: You took me from hopeless to satisfied. The best part is knowing she is into it.
Cathy: I always wanted to know this stuff. The best part is our connection using the candy dish and the scarf.

CHALLENGE
They tried counselling but talking was not addressing their lack of intimacy. And prescribed date nights felt empty. They still didn't know what to do once they got home. Cathy loved being intimate with him but was raised to think of sex as dirty. Paul didn't know what to do, so he turned to watching porn which only left him feeling guilty. Paul resisted going outside of his marriage for sex. He didn't want a divorce but the rejection and her lack of desire were taking a toll on his self esteem.

GOAL
They both deeply desired a secure relationship where they could feel like they are enough for each other, happy, loved and trust that they will grow old together.

SOLUTION
They joined The Intimacy Game Plan. They stopped talking and learned how to show up for each other. The learned to initiate wordlessly, express their moods and desires by simply using a candy dish and a scarf. Knowing their starting positions and having a routine makes them intimate partners able to give and receive love by learning to make love together.

OUTCOME
Now Paul and Cathy are on the same page at the same time every time.

Paul: You took me from hopeless to satisfied. The best part is knowing she is into it.
Cathy: I always wanted to know this stuff. The best part is our connection using the candy dish and the scarf.

THE SITUATION
Wayne and Louise always looked like the perfect couple to their family and friends. They got along great, yet there was a secret betrayal. Louise heard Amy speak about not talking and recovering in connection first.

“Amy, help! She cheated. How do I forgive her? Is it possible to recover from this?”

CHALLENGE
Sex was something he got from her, but rarely. When he would make a pass at her, she would say ‘stop it’ like a young girl. He was tired of trying and being rejected but she is the one that had an affair. They had tried therapy in the past but talking was not the answer.

GOAL
We need to recover from the betrayal, rebuild trust and forgive each other.

SOLUTION
They joined The Intimacy Game Plan. I instructed them to stop talking about "the incident". They needed a new perspective. Together we created a routine that built trust and connection that healed their mind, body, heart and soul. Then, they could explore and share erotic encounters together to never get bored.

OUTCOME
On our follow up call - they called from bed, together!

Wayne: You saved our marriage, again. The best part is trying new things together.
Louise: The best part is us. I have so much less anxiety in my life now.

THE SITUATION
Jamie & Rachel have been together 30+ years since college. They love each other and built a beautiful life and family together. He adored her but even after all of these years anything sexual (movie, joke, innuendo) would make her recoil and shudder. They had seen a therapist who told them to get a divorce. He was willing to fight for their relationship, but realized they were already fighting all the time.

“Her trauma is in our way. Yes, I get some action, but she feels like it’s her duty so it feels forced.”

CHALLENGE
Rachel's past sexual trauma made even a casual touch or compliment a source of distress. Jamie's attempts to understand and avoid her triggers often led to even more fighting — a hand on her thigh, could unexpectedly provoke a negative reaction.

GOAL
They want to get past the triggers and stop fighting. They both longed to lean into each other and feel safe.

SOLUTION
They joined The Intimacy Game Plan. They learned the practice of the Huddle, along with a structured routine, that synchronized their nervous systems, facilitating a connection they can both feel — and that’s what heals.

OUTCOME
Their relationship was transformed. Jamie became more than just a partner. He was her hero, her lover, and a source of safety and comfort. They learned how to regulate each other. She no longer relates the trauma of what happened to her as a child, to the act of making love with her loving husband. Their improved relationship even had a positive impact on their children.

Jamie: We don’t have bad sex anymore. It's not about her duty, I know when she’s into it. We fight less. I’m a better husband, father, boss and friend.
Rachel: The Huddle and the schedule helped the most.

THE SITUATION
Joe and Jane were exhausted and disconnected. Jane struggled with low libido and anxiety. Joe struggled with feelings of rejection and guilt over his secret yearnings.

“She’s always too tired or busy, or both!”

CHALLENGE
Jane’s lack of desire made her feel like nothing she did was ever enough for him. She had anxiety about him leaving or cheating so she watched him like a hawk, but turned down his advances. He felt rejected and undesired. They were both suffering.

GOAL
They longed to be happy together, so they can grow old together knowing they are well-loved.

SOLUTION
They joined The Intimacy Game Plan. They learned to drop their defences, be comfortable, and be playful together. They have the new skills and have learned to be each other’s comfort zone.

OUTCOME
They have a schedule and routine that keeps them intimately connected.

Joe: Thanks Amy, you saved my life.
Jane: I was apprehensive, but I went with it and it feels nice to have something to practice together. It’s been fun. I feel like we're in love again.

THE SITUATION
Chuck and Charity, a vibrant and successful couple, had been facing challenges in their 12-year marriage due to a lack of physical intimacy. Despite having a beautiful life and children together, Charity's increasing sexual frustration was pushing their relationship to a breaking point.

CHALLENGE
With both immersed in demanding careers—Charity grappling with long hours and anxiety, and Chuck avoiding confrontations due to his own insecurities—their paths were diverging. Charity planned a vacation without Chuck, triggering his fears of losing her.

GOAL
To restore the excitement and connection in their relationship, enhancing Chuck's sexual confidence and creating a private, intimate routine that they could look forward to together.

SOLUTION
Guided by Amy and The Intimacy Game Plan, they discovered the power of whole body sensuality, learning intimate techniques and developing a special routine that brought them closer than ever.

OUTCOME
They now look forward to their intimate moments, which continue to improve and bring joy into their lives.

Reflection from Amy: "Chuck and Charity's story is a testament to the transformative power of understanding and nurturing intimacy. They remind us that through dedicated effort and the right guidance, couples can rediscover their passion and strengthen their bond."

Chuck: I’m excited and doing this for me! I have my financial analyst, my business advisor, - now I have you, my Intimacy Coach. All my bases are covered. This is so needed and a total game changer.
Charity: He loves you and we both love this.