THE SITUATION
Jamie & Rachel have been together 30+ years since college. They love each other and built a beautiful life and family together. He adored her but even after all of these years anything sexual (movie, joke, innuendo) would make her recoil and shudder. They had seen a therapist who told them to get a divorce. He was willing to fight for their relationship, but realized they were already fighting all the time.

CHALLENGE
Rachel's past sexual trauma made even a casual touch or compliment a source of distress. Jamie's attempts to understand and avoid her triggers often led to even more fighting — a hand on her thigh, could unexpectedly provoke a negative reaction.

GOAL
They want to get past the triggers and stop fighting. They both longed to lean into each other and feel safe.

SOLUTION
They joined The Intimacy Game Plan. They learned the practice of the Huddle, along with a structured routine, that synchronized their nervous systems, facilitating a connection they can both feel — and that’s what heals.

OUTCOME
Their relationship was transformed. Jamie became more than just a partner. He was her hero, her lover, and a source of safety and comfort. They learned how to regulate each other. She no longer relates the trauma of what happened to her as a child, to the act of making love with her loving husband. Their improved relationship even had a positive impact on their children.

Jamie: We don’t have bad sex anymore. It's not about her duty, I know when she’s into it. We fight less. I’m a better husband, father, boss and friend.
Rachel: The Huddle and the schedule helped the most.