If your wife never seems in the mood and you’re feeling rejected, frustrated, or lost, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: She does want intimacy—just not the way you’ve been initiating it.

Many men think sex and desire should happen spontaneously—that you should magically have the same hunger at the same time. But desire doesn’t work that way. Instead of waiting for the mood to strike, you can actively create the connection that leads to intimacy.