How Can Couples Initiate Intimacy in a Way That Works for Both Partners?

Q: Dear #AskAmyColor 

I don’t like the way my partner initiates. How can I change it without hurt feelings?

A: If you’re tired of feeling rejected or wondering why your partner never initiates, you’re not alone. Many couples struggle with initiating intimacy in a way that feels good for both partners. The good news? There’s a simple, wordless system that removes the pressure and makes connection effortless.

Intimacy coach Amy Color introduces a creative "Candy Dish Method"—a fun, clear way for couples to signal desire without the fear of rejection. Here’s how it works:
• A shared candy dish becomes your intimacy cue.
• When one partner is in the mood, they place a candy in the dish.
• If the other partner is also receptive, they add a candy too.
• This way, initiation is clear, mutual, and pressure-free!

To make it even more personalized, couples can assign different candies to different desires—red jelly beans for one kind of connection, licorice for another—turning initiation into a playful, exciting experience.

But initiating is just the first step. To build deeper connection, Amy recommends focusing on huddle sounds—those soft, pleasurable "mm-hmm" moments that signal what feels good. The goal? To explore, expand, and make every moment together a delicious experience.

Most relationships don’t struggle due to a lack of love—they struggle because they stop making love. With The Intimacy Game Plan, Amy helps couples shift from roommates to playmates, bringing back passion and fun.

Want a custom strategy for your relationship? Book a call with Amy Color today! (Link in description)